How to Handle Negative Comments
I recently had someone say something I found hurtful. I was embarrassed and mad. I couldn’t understand what person would say something to potentially hurt me.
In the moments after, I replayed the scenario over and over in my head. I kept thinking about what I should’ve said in response. As I was driving myself mad over this made up scenario, I suddenly became aware of my thoughts. I laughed because I sounded ridiculous.
What I became aware of was understanding it was only my ego that was bruised. And, it was my ego that was creating this “I should’ve said” scenario in my head. My ego is not my true self, it is an illusion. My true self is only love.
In addition, her hurtful words were only expressions by her own ego. When we operate from the ego, we are capable of hurting others to somehow feel superior or better than. Even if her intentions were not consciously to hurt; they had.
Her true self is only positive and loving energy, incapable of hurting someone and that loves me. Recognizing this led to me letting go of the negative thoughts.
When we feel hurt or betrayed by someone, it is normal to jump to anger and resentment. It is also normal to think of how we could hurt them back. The goal, for me, is to immediately become aware of my egoic thoughts and to shift the anger to forgiveness and positivity.
“Be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior. You are beneath the thinker. You are stillness beneath the noise. You are the love and joy beneath the pain.” –Eckhart Tolle